principles of marrige

Principle 1
Enhance your love map
Develop a sense of the other’s joys, likes, dislikes, fears and stresses
Plenty of cognitive room for marriage
Better prepared to cope with the stressful events and conflict
Principle 2
Nurture your fondness and admiration
Reminding yourself of your spouses positive qualities
Antidotes for contempt
Prevents the four horsemen
Principle 3
Turn toward each other instead of away
Correct distorted notions of what fuels romance
Put effort into to staying connected
Respond to bids for partner’s attention, affection, humor or support.
Principle 4
Let Your Partner Influence You
Yield to win
Search for common ground instead of insisting on your way
Share power
Compromise
Principle 5
Solve Solvable Problems
Soften your start up
Make repair attempts
Soothe self and other
Compromise
Be tolerant of faults
Principle 6
Overcoming Gridlock
The goal in ending gridlock is not to solve the problem but rather to move from gridlock to dialogue about deep dreams.
Principle 7
Create shared meaning
Rituals
Roles
Goals